沟通

wǒ我zài在yī一jiā家gōng sī公司zuò做shè jì设计gōng zuò工作，shàng gè yuè上个月wǒ men我们zǔ组jiē接le了yī一gè个xīn新xiàng mù项目，shí jiān时间hěn很jǐn紧。

I do design work at a company; last month our team took on a new project with a tight deadline.

wǒ我hé和tóng shì同事duì fāng对方àn案yǒu有bù tóng不同de的xiǎng fǎ想法，kāi huì开会de的shí hou时候shéi谁dōu都bù不yuàn yì愿意xiān先ràng让yī一bù步。

A colleague and I had different ideas about the plan, and in the meeting neither of us wanted to give ground first.

huì会hòu后wǒ我gěi给tā他fā发le了yī一tiáo条xiāo xi消息，yuē约tā他yī qǐ一起hē喝kā fēi咖啡。

After the meeting I sent him a message asking him to have coffee.

wǒ men我们liáo聊le了liǎng两gè个xiǎo shí小时，wǒ我fā xiàn发现wǒ men我们dān xīn担心de的wèn tí问题qí shí其实chà bu duō差不多。

We talked for two hours, and I found that the problems we worried about were actually much the same.

zuì hòu最后wǒ men我们gè各gǎi改le了yī bàn一半，fāng àn方案bǐ比yǐ qián以前qīng chu清楚duō多le了。

In the end we each changed half of it, and the plan became much clearer than before.

zhè这jiàn件shì事ràng让wǒ我míng bai明白，hěn很duō多máo dùn矛盾bù不shì是yīn wèi因为shéi谁cuò错le了，ér shì而是yīn wèi因为dà jiā大家méi yǒu没有shuō说qīng chu清楚。

This taught me that many conflicts are not because someone is wrong, but because people have not explained themselves clearly.

hòu lái后来wǒ men我们yuē dìng约定，měi每zhōu周huā花bàn半gè个xiǎo shí小时bǎ把wèn tí问题jiǎng讲yī一biàn遍。

Afterwards we agreed to spend half an hour each week going through the problems.